What type of day are you going to have?

18 04 2014

bug-windshield Have you ever had a day when NOTHING works for you? Nothing is going your way, and you just wonder why you even got out of bed?

Then you have days when everything goes just as planned, you even have great things happen that you were not even expecting.. Those are the days that I live for!

Somewhere I picked up the expression, “Some days you’re the windshield, some days you’re the but… and it seems that I have those types of days…

I strive for then windshield days, even when the day starts me out as the “bug”…

My tip for today is “Don’t let anything turn your day into the bug…

Strive to be the windshield, strong, bug crushing, and clear!

Have a great day!


The Blind men and the elephant…

16 04 2014

I found this story interesting. As a mediator, I am always trying to help myself to understand how others see the world… This story is a good example of “differing opinions” I felt that I wanted to share…


Once upon a time, there lived six blind men in a village. One day the villagers told them, “Hey, there is an elephant in the village today.”

They had no idea what an elephant is. They decided, “Even though we would not be able to see it, let us go and feel it anyway.” All of them went where the elephant was. Everyone of them touched the elephant.

“Hey, the elephant is a pillar,” said the first man who touched his leg.

“Oh, no! it is like a rope,” said the second man who touched the tail.

“Oh, no! it is like a thick branch of a tree,” said the third man who touched the trunk of the elephant.

“It is like a big hand fan” said the fourth man who touched the ear of the elephant.

“It is like a huge wall,” said the fifth man who touched the belly of the elephant.

“It is like a solid pipe,” Said the sixth man who touched the tusk of the elephant.

They began to argue about the elephant and everyone of them insisted that he was right. It looked like they were getting agitated. A wise man was passing by and he saw this. He stopped and asked them, “What is the matter?” They said, “We cannot agree to what the elephant is like.” Each one of them told what he thought the elephant was like. The wise man calmly explained to them, “All of you are right. The reason every one of you is telling it differently because each one of you touched the different part of the elephant. So, actually the elephant has all those features what you all said.”

“Oh!” everyone said. There was no more fight. They felt happy that they were all right.

The moral of the story is that there may be some truth to what someone says. Sometimes we can see that truth and sometimes not because they may have different perspective which we may not agree too. So, rather than arguing like the blind men, we should say, “Maybe you have your reasons.” This way we don’t get in arguments. In Jainism, it is explained that truth can be stated in seven different ways. So, you can see how broad our religion is. It teaches us to be tolerant towards others for their viewpoints. This allows us to live in harmony with the people of different thinking. This is known as the Syadvada, Anekantvad, or the theory of Manifold Predictions.

Just a little “food for thought”

Have a GREAT day!


Time for a vacation?

16 04 2014

hammockandpalms Day in, day out, we work, toil & slave away at our jobs… I have been fortunate to do  what I love in my life, so my “work” is really not like work at all.

However, there are times that I feel that I need a little vacation, just from the mental  stress that I have from time to time. One of my favorite places to unwind is in a  hammock. It does NOT have to be on a beach between 2 palm trees (although I  would not turn that down if the opportunity presented itself!)

So for today, I am going to go through my day, just thinking about a little cool  breeze, laying in a hammock, drink in hand, woman I love by my side, just enjoying  the time that I have together.

Have a great day!

Put a little “pep” in your step, BE HAPPY!!!

15 04 2014

This is a video that was shared from a friend of mine. Thought it was interesting, so I decided to share it with you!


She loves me not!, Yes, I think she LOVES me!!!

6 04 2014

As many of you know over the last few years, I have had a little bit of a “woman issue”…

Yes, I know that for those who know me, it is hard for some to fathom, but yes, it is true. From a bitter, messy divorce, to a couple of semi-serious and a bit crazy girlfriends, to a woman who has grown to become my soulmate.

NOW, before you say, “what do you mean “has grown” to become my soulmate” please allow me to explain…

This woman who moved into my house of calm with her two children literally by “accident” (BTW, thanks knucklehead #1) I was a little unsure at first about how all this was going to shake out. My gut, at first, told me that this was going to be another semi-serious relationship that was not going to last, however, this time, my gut was wrong, REALLY, REALLY WRONG!

The love of my life, has proven to me that she is dependable, caring, TOLERANT (of my gruff demeanor, and rough around the edges red-neck personality), woman who loves me with her entire being. She even puts up with my slob-ish teenage boys…

Many months ago, I asked her to be my wife… she accepted.

Now as we are planning our wedding (the second for both of us) we have had many discussions on how we wanted to handle the situation. I have always said that if I EVER got married again, it was going to be “LAS VEGAS CHEEZY” including Elvis, yes Elvis as the official. At first she thought that I was nuts, and maybe just a little, I am… but after all, why not. My first wedding had a shotgun. So it would have to be a story that would top that one at least. So the powder blue tux with tails, ruffle shirt, and yes, camo shorts and flip flops, it is!

NOW, again, I know you are sitting there saying that I am getting everything that I want, yes that is true, however, I was open to other ideas, and we kicked around a BUNCH of ideas, so many that I believe that we covered everything except the formal Catholic wedding idea, because of course, I am not Catholic. I was happy to give her any type of wedding that she wanted, because to me it is just an event that I show up to, and say, “yes, I do” give her the ring, a kiss that will knock her socks off, and then go do my “thing” that evening. I am now, and have never been fond of any type of detail planning. The only alternative that we BOTH thought would be an acceptable compromise would have been a beach wedding on a small beach in Honduras, or some other caribbean Island with just us and the boys in attendance. We do well, but the cost of that little venture, as we both agreed, would have broken the bank… SO VEGAS IT IS, BABY!!!

Eventually, she came around to my way of thinking, and after much discussion, we have agreed that it will be a “traditional Vegas” wedding, and she allowed me to have Elvis there… Thank you, Thank you VERY MUCH!! (use your best Elvis impersonation here.) We decided that it was just for us. We will share the photos and the video with all of our friends once we return. But we wanted this dose of cheese to be just for us!

The reason for this post, and putting things out there for everyone to see, is to express, mostly to her my level of love that I have for her. Michelle, I love you! There, I said it publically, and it makes me the LUCKIEST guy on the planet as far as I am concerned to have a woman that is WAY out of my league in love with me. To Kevin, I want to say “Thanks”!

We are planning a local celebration for our family and friends (details will be coming in the mail) for May 31st, 2014 in conjunction with our boys high school graduation. I will smoke some meat, cold beverages, and the boys wanted a “bouncy house” so there you have it, a bouncy house!

As for the title, “She loves me not!, Yes, I think she LOVES me!!! it goes to show that when one door closes in your life, you may still have loose ends to tie up, but you never know when the next door will open and present the greatest thing to happen to you in your life next to the birth of your children… OH YEAH, about that, the answer is NO, we will NOT be having any children together… We are both in an agreement that it is too late to start all over again with the diapers, and the bottles, and the middle of the night feedings. We both agree, been there, done that… and we are now looking ahead to retirement, and that long, long life ahead of exploration of the world by RV!

More on that chapter of our life later…

Until then, be good, and if not, then be good at it!


What to do on a Slow Friday at the office??!?

6 09 2013

Today I find myself checking email, and giving my $.02 on facebook to those who a posting, and I came across a friend who posted a song from DeLaSoul from back in the 80′s. I watched that video, and suddenly I was flooded with memories of my “teenagehood” when I was working with my lifetime friend “Brian Gynizio“. So I posted a few of my favorites, which I will reproduce here for the fun of it.

I am calling it, “Flashback Friday”. So for those who enjoy the music of the 80′s, enjoy some memories from your teenagehood!

So let’s start with the themesong from Phil Collins, In the air tonight
Then let’s visit Twisted Sister, I wanna Rock, & Were not gonna take it
Police, every breath you take
A little Beastie Boys.. No sleep ’till Brooklyn
Can’t forget the pedophile, MJ “Thriller“, and “Beat it
Then this one for my babe: “Time Warp” (I know, it was from the 70′s, but we enjoyed the movies PLENTY in the 80′s) Don’t forget the rice, toast, and the water guns…

This concludes this edition of “Flashback Friday”

Have a GREAT weekend!


Energized, & Setting Sail in a NEW direction…

5 08 2013

Over the past few weeks/months, I have been evaluating my life and the things that I have done that have lead me to this exact point in my life. Some, not all, of my choices that I have made have been, shall I say, less than stellar. Yes, yes, I know, I have made mistakes…

I have made some tough decisions about my situation, and what I need to do to reach my goal(s). Some of those decisions will affect the lives of others in a negative way. It is a tough position to be in. I always try to “do no harm”… Sometimes you must cut the strings and let things go.

My oldest son and I attended a seminar this last 3 days that I was hoping would motivate and educate him to help prepare him for making the most of his life. I believe that it has done just that. His outlook seems to have changed, just a little, in that he is looking to make the most of the opportunities that lay before him. I believe that he realizes what potential that he has and what he can accomplish in his life.

I have made a list of about 20+ books that I am going to purchase and read over the next few months. My goal is to finish this list before the end of the year. Less TV, MORE READING. I am also going to be more active in searching out and putting into place the plan that I have for retirement. Every day is an opportunity that slips thru my fingers if I am not working on my goal of retirement.


I only have one negative “force” in my life left, and I am actively working to remove that force from my thoughts, and daily life. At some point that force is going to go away and I will be free from it for good.

This graphic that I have added was sent to me from a friend on facebook. I thought that it was fitting after what happened to me on Thursday of last week. I am not at liberty to discuss it in this forum, but if you know me, ask, I will tell you ALL about it!

As I have stated, today is a new day, moving in a new direction, with new excitement to reach the goals that I have in life. Every “opportunity” that presents itself will be evaluated, and if it does not fall within that parameters to reaching my goal, they will be left along the roadside of life for someone else. I must be productive each and every day, get back on the horse and “ride”…


Until next time, have a GREAT day!




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